Thinking Out Loud

Dan Kennedy just talked about his principle of the swift sword which means you should never chase sunk costs. Instead, you should cut your losses swiftly and move on to more productive endeavors. I found it interesting how he applied the principle of the   swift sword to relationships in his  No BS Guide to Time Management .  I agree that if a relationship no longer serves you, you should move on. Would applying the principle of  the swift sword result in more divorces? How many people are chasing sunk costs in their marriages? Does the fact that you've already invested so much time and energy into a relationship, keep you there long after you should've left? Would it portend a national disaster if everyone left their significant others the moment they realized it wasn't a great fit? Furthermore, is it really so easy to know when you are chasing sunk costs? How many times has something appeared hopeless only to have it turn out alright? What if you pul...

I'm no expert on relationships except when it comes to my own. There are many relationship theories out there and I have come up with my own relationship laws.  Here are just a few: 1) I am responsible for the quality of my relationships. 2) I only maintain relationships that are positive, productive, and profitable. 3) I teach people how to treat me. I'm okay ending relationships. I now live by the mantra of "I love you, but I love myself more." I am okay being alone. In fact, I prefer solitude to sociality. It is not selfish to want alone time nor is it selfish to make and keep appointments with yourself. It is your responsibility to speak up for what you want and need in a relationship. Assertiveness is essential if you want to avoid miscommunications and misunderstandings. I was programmed to suck it up and serve in relationships and I am still unable to express what I want, initially. I'm working on being straightforward and expressing my need...

I've probably already blogged about this movie, but last night I watched it with the kids. They loved it, but hated the ending. I tried to explain the beauty of the story, and while I did succeed in opening their eyes they still preferred an ending where Sebastian married Mia and they both lived happily ever after. La La Land is magical for me because it's ending is life-like rather than fairy-tale. It's a powerful reminder that not all relationships last, but their impact does. I like it's helpful to think of our life like a movie or play. There are acts and actors/actresses who cross our stage. Some have major roles, some only minor, but each plays an important part. Those that we form relationships with become our greatest teachers. They add to the plot by providing, twists and turns, ups and downs, agonies and ecstasies, and trials and triumphs. I have had several relationships already that have positively impacted my play. My former spouse gave me many fond mem...