Here's a thought, concern yourself with your self. Quit worrying about others or trying to understand why others did what they did or do what they do. Instead, look within and try to understand yourself. I can't tell you how many books I've read about trying to understand others perspective or the merits of putting yourself in the shoes of others. I'm not saying these aren't helpful techniques. It is good to think of where others are coming from as it can increase your understanding. But I'm discovering that actual change comes when we realize from whence we are coming. We can't change the behavior of others. And let's face it, we really can't understand their behavior either because we really can't know what they are thinking or feeling. But we can examine ourselves. We can analyze what we are thinking and feeling or simply just witness it. I have been using this technique a lot the past while and it's quite revealing. I was watching a m...