Thinking Out Loud

Today was a fun day in Hawaii and while I’d love to chronicle all our adventures, one is more important to note than all others. It occurred at Waikiki Beach. Page lost her goggles when a large wave pummeled her. She and her sisters search around the surf to no avail. They were gone. She came up on the beach, where I was enjoying a good book, and vented her frustrations. I told her I was sorry that happened and assured her that it wasn’t a big deal and we could rent some other ones or buy her some new ones. She, however, could not be consoled as she was positive her day, and in fact her entire trip, were now ruined. I exercised my Buddha wisdom and reminded her of pain and suffering. I told her there wasn’t anything she could now do to bring her goggles back as the Sea Gods had claimed them and only they could give them back if they wanted and it would be in their own due time if they felt so inclined. Rather than be upset that her siblings were no longer interested in searching for th...

I just love Dr. Dyer. He has profoundly impacted my thoughts and way of being. Yesterday I was reading his book Real Magic and I particularly loved his advice: relinquish your need to be right. Nobody likes to be proved wrong, especially publicly. What is it in you that must be right? The more peace we invite into our lives and the more we focus on loving ourselves and others, the less we need to be right. We are able to subdue the urge to correct and instead we can simply say, "I don't see it that way," or we can just think that in our minds and smile as we allow others to express their opinions. There really isn't anything worth hurting feelings over. When was the last time you felt like you won a verbal engagement? Yes, you may have made your point and the other person may have retreated. Did you really change their mind? Or did you just get them to submit because they don't enjoy confrontation or they just decided to allow you to be right. Or maybe you did...