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Wherever You Go, There You Are

Wherever you go, there you are. I asked my kids tonight what they thought that meant. We were eating dinner at Outback Steakhouse. I suppose it contains many meanings, but tonight I was struck by the fact that we can't run away from our problems because our problems aren't outside of us, they are within.

Whenever we want to run or leave a difficult situation behind, we are really running from our own inability to handle the situation. If we want to make progress, real progress in the area of self-improvement, it behooves us to figure out what it is inside we need to really work on.

I can leave my job because I don't enjoy the culture, or I can look within and figure out what is really going on. What's really the problem is that I'm not feeling valued. Sure I'm being compensated well, but for a lady hungry for words of affirmation, working without them is difficult. So I can leave and sure enough when I arrive somewhere else where I don't feel appreciated, I will once again need to leave.

Doesn't it sound far more rewarding to dig deep and remove my need for praise than pack up and head for happier hunting grounds? Staying put will result in greater growth. Plus, I want to strip myself of this childish need--for the less we need, the stronger we become. Less is always more.

I don't need to feel valued for I know my value. I am adding value every day and needing someone else to tell me that is placing myself in a precarious position. Why would I ever want to give away my power to create and feel valued to someone else? Plus, my value has already been determined. It was determined when they hired me and even long before I signed a contract for what is the worth of a human soul?

So that is why I wanted my children to know that wherever you go, there you are! So don't be so quick to go. Instead, stay and grow!
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