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Attachments and Entanglements

I’ve decided to live a life completely free of attachments and entanglements. It feels so liberating! Earlier this year I was planning to invest in some property with a friend and after the whole thing with my business partner, I decided not to go in on the property with my friend for I never again want to be attached or entangled with anyone or anything.

In fact, I’ve recently been making concerted efforts to untangle myself from any entanglements or attachments. I want to be completely free to come and go at will. Don’t worry, I’m not getting divorced, I am choosing to stay married because, a) I am happy in my marriage, and b) my husband and I have both been careful to keep ourselves unencumbered from one another. Having experienced divorce before, we both agreed to keep things separate so that if we ever wanted to separate it would be quick and painless. I know some people feel this is unwise as it makes it too easy to leave each other if/when the going gets tough, but I disagree. People leave relationships emotionally when they are stuck physically so essentially the relationship is dead anyway. I’d rather make exiting physically a possibility so that I don’t live with an emotionally unresponsive partner.

Relationships where both parties are free to leave (I refer to them as “relationships of choice”) are far better than forced relationships. When two or more people feel obligated to stay resentment replaces love and respect. Relationships of choice are far more fulfilling than relationships where parties are trapped. I feel sorry for those stuck in relationships that aren’t working for them. Feeling trapped destroys the spirit. Freedom does come at a cost--when has it not? In my opinion, it's far better to risk a partner easily leaving if it results in a fare move loving and fulfilling relationship.

Only the insecure crave the false security of attachments and entanglements.

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