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Reinforcements and Revelations

Today was full of fun reinforcements and revelations. I belong to a private Facebook group of former Mormons and there is always interesting information being shared. I enjoy reading the experiences of other members and I find comfort in knowing I'm not alone.

This weekend several members of the community shared posts about an email they have received from the church asking them to complete a survey on why they left the church.

Here is what one member shared:

Did anyone else receive a survey by email today from the church? I guess I’m still on their mass email list. Normally I would have just deleted it, but it said if I filled it out I would get a $10 Amazon gift card, so I decided to hurry and complete it.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜œIt had some general factual questions, but then it asked some deep hard questions. Basically, it is trying to figure out who and why people are leaving the church and what they can do to prevent it from happening even more. They are trying to see if there are common thread…
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Blinders Begone

So I started writing a book and man if I'm already bored of it, what does that say about any one else wanting to read it?

I feel like I don't really need to write a book, but just a bunch of blog posts. For me, it's so freaking hard to write a book peice meal. Just when I get into the groove, I get interrupted.

If I'm going to ever write a book, I need to go to a deserted island where I can have 30 days of uninterrupted, totally focused writing time. It takes too much time for me to get into the flow to only write for 30 minutes per day. By the time I warm up, it's time to wrap up. That's not optimal for quality writing.

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Bullshit Lies

I won't take no more of your bullshit lies
I got hands so full of your stinkin' pies
Times are changin' and I realize
I hate these patties in my hand
Their smell offends me
I'm taking a stand

I refuse to carry this crap around
I'm settin' it down
upon the ground
where shit belongs
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It's time for me to make my own way
pushin' all these bulls aside
confidently watch me stride
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trustin' my gut
believin' my reason
followin' my heart
season after season

and as I go, this I now know

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I don't pick it up
I don't take hold of it
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I raise my sights
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I had a revelation about reincarnation in the shower yesterday. I do not find it difficult to believe in reincarnation after this life because I have experienced reincarnation in this life several times. Two of which I'm particularly aware.

First, in an effort to not mince words, perhaps what I'm about to describe isn't technically the meaning of reincarnation, but more along the lines of reinvention, however, since both instances encapsulate the death of a world, accompanied by the rebirth and remaking of a new life, I'm rolling comfortably with reincarnation.

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